Being the bigger person is easier said than done, and I, for one, have struggled on various occasions throughout my life to even ponder on the thought. Yet, within both emotional stability and forgiveness, there is a deep universal connection through compassion, empathy, and various other avenues that can enrich our lives and are somewhat essential in the progress of humanity.

I don’t think I have ever actually truly regretted letting something go or being the bigger person involved in a state of conflict. Whether the gesture is felt, understood, acknowledged, or not, it is important for our own minds to release the emotional constraints. If we fail to do so, then we will forever be trapped by the relevant party that set that thought, feeling, or emotion in place.

When I don’t let something go, no matter how much I believe or even know, that someone else is wrong, I don’t ever feel satisfied about the decision, and the feeling of expecting resolution from the other party simply eats away at me because I allow my own perspective of a situation to be clouded by their viewpoint. But who am I to live inside their mind? Who am I to believe they see something the way I see it? Who am I to expect resolution? So why would I allow my perception of their perspective to cloud and poison my mind?

It’s inevitable that initially within any given situation, there may be animosity that can result in a prolonged feeling of anger or disapproval of a person or situation, but it’s important to be the bigger person, not simply for the relationship or the other person, but for your own peace of mind, because life is too short to allow these feelings to cloud us. If someone is going to do the right thing, or the wrong thing, they are going to do it. However, we ourselves can always choose to release, move forward, and enjoy happy and joyful moments without any preconceived expectations of others.

Thanks,

Dean