There’s a lady at work that really gets under my skin. I don’t know if it’s her demeanour, passive aggressive behaviour or the fact that while her department is clearly failing, still feels the need to focus her time on her opinions on other departments. Negative thoughts, feelings and emotions are ‘negative’ and they don’t bring any immediate gratification from putting others down or feeling annoyed or losing control in your own mind. What they can do though is set you up for an opportunity to overcome something.

This lady has spoken down to me over the years, made me feel quite insignificant and has really gotten under my skin. As I develop in my career and feel more comfortable in my role and position within the company I understand that the vast majority of her behaviour comes from her own insecurities and lack of knowledge around her own role. It’s easy to think seeing this gives me satisfaction, but it doesn’t, I feel sorry for her and even though I have no idea of her thought process and own internal struggles but whatever it is, I hope one day she sees it can work to resolve these traits.

The reason I speak about this is that as I grow within myself, learn my strengths and weaknesses, figure out my process and become more and more confident in who I am, only now am I able to break these things down and analyse them for what they are. People trying to undermine you, put you down and look for avenues to make you question yourself, dissect who you are to compensate for their own shortfalls is inevitable, but your ability to see it for what it is, is an important step in learning to control you mind and once you can control your train of thought against those that get under your skin, then you will be able to find a productive understanding that can greatly contribute to the search for happiness.

Since I have been able to break these things down and see people and their insignificant opinions for what they are, I have found more happiness in my day to day but on a deeper level, more so being able to control my own emotions when I receive these negative deliveries, I have been able to find a neutral grounding, and maintaining a neutral grounding and not allowing people to get under my skin has really giving me the ability to stay happier on a more consistent scale over a much longer period of time.

Don’t let people get under your skin, because at the end of the day, the only reason they get under there, is because you allowed them to

Thanks,

Dean