Shame is a powerful emotion that is instilled in our youth from a young age. It seems that no matter where we turn, there is always someone there to tell us what we are doing wrong, what we should be wearing, and what we should be eating. Unfortunately, this is a reality that many children have to face on a daily basis, and it can have a devastating effect on their self-esteem.

As a society, we have become so focused on labelling things as right or wrong, good or bad, that we have forgotten the importance of individuality. We have created a world in which we place immense value on fitting in and being accepted by others, often at the expense of our own happiness. Children who are taught to conform to societal norms, rather than being encouraged to express themselves freely, can develop feelings of shame and inadequacy that can last a lifetime.

However, there is hope. By removing the idea of shame from children's minds, we can significantly improve their potential for happiness. When kids feel comfortable being themselves, they are more confident, more creative, and more capable of achieving their goals. They are better equipped to handle challenges, to develop meaningful relationships, and to live a fulfilling life.

As a parent, I believe it is important to create an environment that nurtures children's individuality. This means allowing them to explore their interests and passions without judgement or shame. It means giving them the freedom to express themselves in any way they choose, even if it goes against the norms of society. It means empowering them to make their own decisions and helping them to develop the skills they need to navigate the world with confidence. The ideology of allowing our children a free an expressive path with safe and nurturing communication channels is an important step in not just removing shame, but also allowing a more open minded perspective. I believe as a parent my role is not to create rules or dictate life direction but to provide the best platform of information available to allow my children the best understanding of right and wrong and best understanding of their own values and beliefs.

We need to shift our focus from what is "normal" to what is healthy and fulfilling for each individual. We need to stop projecting our own prejudices and biases onto our children and instead, teach them to think critically and make informed decisions based on their own values and beliefs. When children are taught to value themselves and those around them, rather than fitting into society's narrow definition of acceptable behaviour, they become more resilient, empathetic, and compassionate individuals.

Shame is a toxic emotion that has no place in modern society. By removing this idea from the minds of our children, we open up a world of possibilities and allow a deeper, stronger, more transparent route in the search for happiness. As parents, it is our responsibility to create an environment that fosters individuality and empowers our children to be themselves. We need to focus on what is healthy and fulfilling for each individual, rather than what society deems as acceptable. Only then can we truly create a world that is inclusive and free from shame.

“Kites rise high against the wind, not with it” - Winston Churchill

Never be afraid to be who you are

Thanks,

Dean